Recently I was talking to several couples with children where both partners are working. Most of the men said things like: “I’m totally into gender equality. I help and support her as much as I can, but she‘s never satisfied.”
While the women were going crazy saying things like: “All responsibility is on me. If I don’t control everything, things will go totally wrong.” So why these different perceptions?
I think the core of the problem is that: to help and to support someone sounds pretty nice but in fact it includes the idea that the other one is responsible for the whole of it and just needs some help.
While this is just supporting the same old idea of women being responsible for the wellbeing of the family. And most women take this responsibility just as if it was normal. That makes that they constantly feel going crazy by the overload of daily tasks and a strong need to ask for help where there should be no help but real shared responsibility. Because the one helping is always the generous one while the other one should be thankful.
Today I came across this one posted by a friend. Originally it’s meant to be about family relation ships. But I thought that this may fit for leadership skills, too:
Give wings to the people who work with you – make them big taking into account they might fly away. But until they fly away you’ll profit from their excellentwork work and high motivation for a while, instead of having people around youall the time who feel small. And maybe they don’t fly away that qucikly because they appreciate working with you.
Give them reasons to stay – understand your own role in the team as a leader and be Continue Reading →
Some years ago when I was still quite new and unexperienced in my position as a manager, my boss suggested me to carry out an anonymous staff satisfaction survey to evaluate my personal leadership qualities. By then I was responsable for around 60 people, among them were five team leaders who should be the ones to judge on my abilities.
I knew there were tensions between me an my team and I didn’t quite understand which were the reasons behind.So I was incredibly worried and Continue Reading →
Head of Product Management and Assistant to Management at a Tour Operator and Incoming Agency.
Andrea, what do you like in your job?
What I like the most is the responsibility and flexibility I have in my job. I’m very happy to have the chance to participate in our development-oriented business. I like that I’m able to make decisions by agreement of the management It’s a good motivation to know the management has Continue Reading →